My worst nightmare just came into reality. I thought I am one lucky mama to have Baby K behave as she does. I always get praises because she's one quiet baby. She rarely cries when we go to gatherings or meet up with other people. Even though she prefers to be in my arms these days, she still braves in a fairly good way. I am wrong and I did not expect it to happen, especially yesterday when everything seemed to be so good.
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After the story time, we went to the mall (again) to do more gift shopping. I can proudly say that I only need to buy two more gifts. That rarely happens because I always do last minute shopping on Christmas time. Kaelyn started getting annoyed and so I picked her up so she could fall asleep. She did and when I laid her down on her stroller, she cried and cried and cried hysterically. I let her cry, hoping that she will fall asleep but she didn't. I didn't want to pick her up because we need to get to the bus soon. She kept on crying, loudly, trying to remove herself from the stroller. Her face was turning red and her cry, oh my gosh, I can't even describe it. Everyone who walked passed us gave me a dirty look. They were probably thinking how terrible of a mom I am. I was so frustrated because I don't get why she won't just go to sleep in her stroller like she always used to? After 20 minutes or so, I gave in and picked her up. She stopped crying but showed me that she wasn't happy about it by pinching me over and over again. I was so annoyed and didn't know what to do. When we go to Patrick's work, I gave Baby K to him and told him what happened. He laughed at me, thinking I was probably joking. He didn't thought how bad it was until his sister told him and how annoyed I looked.
It was probably my fault too because I always gave in on everything that she wanted. Also, everyone at home always carried her even when she doesn't need anything. She isn't used to being ignored. Now, I don't know what to do because she has started having fits and keeps on pinching me when she doesn't get what she wants. Talk about being a spoiled brat and she's only 9 months old. I am so frustrated and tired. I'm not even sure why this is happening this early. She seemed fine and next thing you know, she's screaming and crying her heart out. I am now under pressure of disciplining her properly. I have been told by a few other moms how their babies follow and understand them when they're a year old. I'm kind of scared on how other moms react when they see my daughter. They seem to judge me based on how she acts which is a little unfair.
Need not worry! I don't give into Dylan, I don't hold him all the time and he is exactly the same way with his tantrums. Around 9 months (same as Kaeyln) he began having these intense tantrums and scream fests. It's totally normal and it isn't your fault. Apparently our babies want a lot more than they can verbalize so all they can do is get frustrated. You're a great mom, don't question that. I hate public outbursts but they are babies after all.
ReplyDeleteThank you. I guess she's just going into a phase. It's kind of hard to deal though, I feel pain whenever I leave her crying but then she gets too spoiled if I give in quick. It's so tough but I hope we get through it.
DeleteOh Mama - it's not your fault at all. It's completely normal and means that we have healthy babies, but I remember this feeling vividly! I felt like I had the most laid back baby until 9 months as well! Then they develop their own personalities and melt-down's abound. I'd like to tell you that it gets better, but at 19 months, we still have our fair share. Some days you are able to control them better than others. The dirty looks are the worst though, aren't they!?
ReplyDeleteOne thing that I found helpful during this time was to read up on Wonder Weeks. If you Google it, you will find tons of information on it. Basically, wonder weeks are when your little one is about to reach a new developmental milestone - which is great, except that these weeks are typically marked by temper tantrums and disrupted sleep cycles.
Hopefully that helps shed some light. When I at my wits end because of her behavior, I would look up to see if she was having a wonder week. She was almost always right on time with them. It helped me understand what she was going through and always gave me a little more patience with her.
We're all in this together - despite the dirty looks! :)
It gets harder to deal with the tantrums when other people butt in and give you dirty looks. It makes me feel like I'm being watched and judged. I hope it gets better soon though. I totally forgot about Wonder Weeks. I'm definitely checking it out now. She probably is in the fussy period. Thank you so much!! :)
DeleteAll those parents who say their kids don't pinch, scratch, bite, scream, throw fits, etc. are LYING. Either that or they beat their children's spirits into submission. I have an almost 5 year old and a 1 year old and I can tell you, it does get easier when they start talking so they can verbalize what they want. At least that way, they can voice their feelings, and you can explain why they can't have what they want. But no matter what age, no child is perfect. Even adults throw their own tantrums! Don't let others' judgments and dirty looks affect you. You are a great mom!!
ReplyDeleteThat is so true! I think that's what I'll be looking forward too from now on. I guess I just get caught up with what others are thinking and saying to me instead on focusing on her. Thank you so so much!! :)
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